The April Fools Day! When your own Children get satisfaction of making a fool out of you

So, it is April  1st. Most of you  know how this day can turn from a normal day into a total panic especially when you get that shocking message that someone you care about is in ICU for heart attack or accident and you have to rush, or you won a prize that you have been waiting for soooo long! It is a very cautious day where you have to doubt everything and about everybody! even the people you respect the most! It is that day when you receive your bowl of cold revenge soup saved with chilled smile, or save one!

So today, my children got me! They saved me a year long cold soup of revenge. I had to drive for two hours, in a painfully slow traffic only to find out that it is April 1st. They got me. They called a very old friend of mine to arrange this with him in an exchange for  good grades in the coming term. They even gave up their two hours of TV on Saturday just to do this.

I got home from the office yesterday, the moment i sat down the telephone rings. My oldest son picks it up to only give me a message that my friend has called and that he lost his cellphone but he is having a little bit of trouble with the police (he is one of the most decent person i am gratefully to know) and that he is heading to the police station. And that once he gets back home, he will call me. I nod and weeell,... sit there and have my glass of juice.

Around 09.00PM, the phone rings again my youngest son picks it up and say it was my friend again, still at the police station,  and that things has turned out not so well, i get a little worried, but when i call back, the line does not go through. i tell myself that i will have to find out more about it tomorrow from his girlfriend.

Today around 0600AM, i called his girlfriend and she says that he was arrested and that she is on the way to the police station.. now i am freaking out, like really freaking out! A moment later, the phone rings and when i pick up he speaks in a hurry that he was arrested, and that he needs me to post bail for him so that he can go home. I take all necessary documents and steps, including calling one of our lawyer friend so that he can help out

I drive 46 KMS  to the police station and when i got at the counter and ask for him, the  man at the counter  give me this stupid face as if i am a mad woman. "We do not have anybody with that name" Now i am freaking out like 70% of all the worries you know. I ask again and they repeat the same. I call his girlfriend and she asks me to go to their house, there were big problems. Now i am not driving, i am racing there, because i am worried that he might be dead (police brutality.. you know) I get in the house only to find him wearing his girlfriend's pink flowered kimono with a steaming cup of coffee watching morning news.

What he says, go ask your sons about this i was just asked to do this with exchange for good grades and a month of NO TWO   HOURS OF TV. I am like ... whaaaat ... remember i had to call the office that i had an emergency!  Really!

I am Back Again.... What is going to Happen Next!!!

Here i am!  I kind of abandoned this space for a while to try and find myself,  (who am i kidding, I didn't have time.) But i just came back because i think there is a meaning in this and i want to share it out there.  And i am going to tell you what i am planning and what i will be doing with this space.But before i start... full disclosure... English is not my first Language, so please read the content understand the context and comment if you wish. My grammar may be bad, but there is a meaning in what i communicate....So here are the few things that i will be looking at

1. Small stories: Lets call them Dar es Salaam Delights. We will look at the lifestyles and what is happening around and what does that mean. I will be gratefully if you could leave the comments here or at our  facebook page.

2. Health tips around the web: You may tell us what you think, whether they are helpful or not, whether you want to try them or not. anything! (i am not the health specialist, or nutritional expert, or doctor or anything of that  nature, all information are entirely third part information)

3. Politics: If at all we will be able to discuss them: You know, we kind of have something new in politics everyday from our newly elected President Magufuli and its cabinet. (By the way i am Tanzanian)

4. Travels: Well... not entirely travel, like safari or something, but travel within Tanzania generally, i will base in Dar and i will write articles that those who are in Dar can relate with. and those who wish to visit can use!

5. Independent (single)  Parenting: This is  big one: I am single, independent parent of three and i have a lot to share. i have 10 years experience on this and i  have learned a lot. It may not be perfect but i will share with you what my learning and others are.

6. Anything at all!

Sit back and  enjoy!

My first Post

This is my first post on this blog, And i am going to tell you why i decide to write this blog.

This blog is specifically about me, my life, my journey...I will sometimes write small things about my family.

I am a woman, as i am writing this post i am 35 years old, single mom with three children! Two handsome, intelligent sons aged 11 and 10 and a beautiful  sweet girl of 14 months. I am blessed that i have them. My first two sons are from my previous marriage, a failed marriage which left me ANGRY, rather than broken. Unfortunately, i do not know why i got married in the first place, because i was on my early 20's, in college, met this handsome guy, got pregnant and even before i knew it, Baaaaam... im pregnant. Learning from my sisters experience who had a baby before marriage and the trauma she went through, i decided to leave with this guy in 2004, had my first son the same year, conceived again when he was 4 months, married in a church in 2005, had my second son the same year and separated in 2006. it was a series of events like in a movie and looking myself now, i cant believe that this was so very me!

I met another  guy in 2009 and had a relationship, on and off until i moved in the same city where he lived, conceived in 2013 and had my girl in 2013. The pregnancy took a toll on me and couldn't keep this relationship either, so i had to let it go. To be frank the ending of this relationship did hurt me. it left a hole deep down in me that i have been finding a way to fill it. A very deep dark hole that i started filling it with food and drink, and meaningless relationships, and all kind of  actions that would make me excited. And i confused excitement with happiness.

I gained weight, and hated my body, spent my money in things i would regret later, lost my friends because i was ashamed, blame my fate because i didn't know what i really wanted and how to get there, depressed and angry all the time.

For some reasons, i decided i wanted to change things around me. So i decided to read, all the inspirational books and articles and lines i could get and slowly, i started with small action. example, i changed the direction of my bed... and it changed a lot how i viewed my life!

It is a journey, a very long journey with lots of ups and down but i now i will get there. I have few friends, co workers,  and a very sweet neighbor. i am still rebuilding and reconnecting with people i lost, and make plans to make my life better! Welcome and travel with me! i hope you will enjoy reading!